Divorce is not only a stressful affair for the couple but for their children as well. Because the process has different meanings for children of different ages, you may need to tailor your explanations accordingly.
For example, newborns and toddlers may not understand what’s happening, but they understand their daily routine and will respond to changes. Meanwhile, preschoolers and young elementary school kids may have a rough idea of divorce and be more interested in how the changes affect them.
Talking to your children about divorce
When kids speak to you about divorce, they may bring up different concerns. They may be concerned about moving and may even have questions like, “Am I going to be left alone?”
Parents should be ready to answer these kinds of questions during their conversations with their kids. Moreover, they should be prepared to respond to more queries even after the proceedings are complete and the children are growing older.
For example, school-age kids may want to know why you and your spouse are no longer together, but as they age, they may ask tricky questions you must answer honestly.
Meanwhile, teenagers may also seek explanations as to why you are getting divorced. While it is wise to answer all queries truthfully, it may be inappropriate to tell them all the details of the marriage. After all, they are children, not your friends, so tell them what they need to know but spare them the details to protect them.
Putting children first
When undergoing divorce, it is crucial to put children first when making decisions. Even though the process can be stressful and overwhelming, parents are still responsible for meeting the needs of their children.
Constant reassurance, demonstrating commitment and being open to conversations are crucial to help your child cope with changes in the family. Putting yourself in your child’s shoes may help you see what your kids need from you and your former spouse.